While you might love Shrek , experts advise against falling for shrekking- a dating trend going viral right now. Derived from a fan favourite animated film "Shrek" the trend is anything but worth a try.
What is Shrekking ?
Shrekking includes dating a person you are not attracted to in the hopes that they will treat you better in return. Princess Fiona did take a chance on Shrek and it did turn out great for her, right? However, if you get shrekked it means that the person you lowered your standard for still ended up hurting you.
According to Amy Chan, dating coach and author of "Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," "In this plotline, you're dating an ogre without the princess treatment."
She explained how many people put looks down in their list in the hope that attraction would grow over time but the idea backfired when they think that they will be treated well just because they are dating 'down' in looks.
Why are experts against Shrekking?
Shrekking is actually old wine in a new bottle. "We've all been there. We give the guy we're not attracted to a chance, thinking that he will for sure know what he has and treat us well. And then we get traumatised by a whole troll," said a TikToker in a video.
One of the first problems with this dating trend is the idea that a person should be able to predict how a partner will treat them based on the way they look. IRL, one can not figure out how a person would treat them even after months of dating. A person who treats you poorly, should be unattractive no matter how they look.
Secondly, the term may dissuade people from dating outside their usual type due to the fear that it may end badly. "The idea is that you stepped outside your comfort zone, but instead of being rewarded with growth or connection, you wound up regretting the experience," said Emma Hathorn, a relationship expert at Seeking.com to USA TODAY. "When two people are genuinely driven towards a similar goal and values, they can find an attraction in each other that surprises them and refutes the shallower factors like physical type and societal expectations."
What do people think of Shrekking?
Well, as is the norm for social media people have not been shy about making memes about shrekking.
"When you get the super hot girlfriend but it’s during the Shrekking trend," wrote a person on X sharing a GIF of a sad person.
"I saw something that dating ugly people is called “Shrekking” and I am totally someone’s Princess Fiona if that was the case," added another.
"I was JUST getting my confidence back to start dating again. Now I'm gonna be paranoid that the person I'm dating thinks I'm ugly," shared a social media user.
What is Shrekking ?
Shrekking includes dating a person you are not attracted to in the hopes that they will treat you better in return. Princess Fiona did take a chance on Shrek and it did turn out great for her, right? However, if you get shrekked it means that the person you lowered your standard for still ended up hurting you.
According to Amy Chan, dating coach and author of "Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," "In this plotline, you're dating an ogre without the princess treatment."
She explained how many people put looks down in their list in the hope that attraction would grow over time but the idea backfired when they think that they will be treated well just because they are dating 'down' in looks.
Why are experts against Shrekking?
Shrekking is actually old wine in a new bottle. "We've all been there. We give the guy we're not attracted to a chance, thinking that he will for sure know what he has and treat us well. And then we get traumatised by a whole troll," said a TikToker in a video.
One of the first problems with this dating trend is the idea that a person should be able to predict how a partner will treat them based on the way they look. IRL, one can not figure out how a person would treat them even after months of dating. A person who treats you poorly, should be unattractive no matter how they look.
Secondly, the term may dissuade people from dating outside their usual type due to the fear that it may end badly. "The idea is that you stepped outside your comfort zone, but instead of being rewarded with growth or connection, you wound up regretting the experience," said Emma Hathorn, a relationship expert at Seeking.com to USA TODAY. "When two people are genuinely driven towards a similar goal and values, they can find an attraction in each other that surprises them and refutes the shallower factors like physical type and societal expectations."
What do people think of Shrekking?
Well, as is the norm for social media people have not been shy about making memes about shrekking.
"When you get the super hot girlfriend but it’s during the Shrekking trend," wrote a person on X sharing a GIF of a sad person.
"I saw something that dating ugly people is called “Shrekking” and I am totally someone’s Princess Fiona if that was the case," added another.
"I was JUST getting my confidence back to start dating again. Now I'm gonna be paranoid that the person I'm dating thinks I'm ugly," shared a social media user.
